When you're in bed with your lover

               When you're in bed with your lover, the last thing you want to do is turn them off. That said, here are a few common blunders that you should not commit.

1. Not kissing
Believe it or not, many people (and this includes women) don't kiss their partner when they're having sex. Why? Perhaps because the positioning doesn't allow for it or they are too eager to climax and feel that it might break the rhythm. Nevertheless, it is highly recommended that you make an effort to kiss your partner during the act - it will only add to the experience.

2. Biting before your partner's ready
While many people enjoy an aggressive partner, biting any part of their body before they are aroused may lead to pain and discomfort (and might even lessen the chances of any further action ) or simply scare them off. So make sure your partner is fully excited before you bite their ear, shoulders, neck or any other part of their body.

3. Ignoring everything but sexualised parts
Genitals are great, no doubt, but you should definitely pay attention to other parts of your lover's body and focus for some time on their entire body - knees, wrists, back and stomach are highly erogenous zones for men as well as women. Gently caressing these areas will help excite your partner further; in turn, increasing the chances of them pleasuring you back.

4. Putting your weight on your partner
Even if you're a girl! It’s okay to lose yourself in the moment every once in a while and go crazy on your lover. But when you're lying on top of them, you have to be careful not to drop your weight on them. Chocking them or hindering their ability to breathe will anyway kill the moment and any chances of some good action.

5. Climaxing too soon/ too late
this one is especially for men. You need to have good control on your muscles to ensure that you can ejaculate at an appropriate time. Too soon and you may leave your partner unsatisfied; too late and it might leave your partner feeling as if they're pumping iron at the gym. To avoid this, spend a lot more time on foreplay (this will help men as well as women). If you take too long and can only ejaculate via manual stimulation, do your best to get your partner to orgasm and then they can return you the favour.

6. Not warning your partner before you climax
If you're going to let go - and this applies even to women - whether during oral sex or intercourse, you need to tell your partner beforehand. Something as simple as "I'm going to let go," will suffice. Your partner deserves to know.

7. Treating sex like porn

Although some couples enjoy having raunchy sex, you'd be wise to talk to your partner before you engage in such behaviour. If you begin being nasty with your lover without knowing if they like it first, chances are the scenario won't end on a happy note.

8. Staying quiet

Do you like to hear it when your partner is having a good time? So pay them the same respect and speak up when you're enjoying yourself. Something as simple as a little moan, or even saying something like, "that feels so good," will encourage them and educate them further on your moan zones.

9. Mechanical act
It may feel comfortable to you to pump away like you do at the gym, but you'll quickly discover that most people don't enjoy such an act. Mix it up a little bit; go fast at times, then slowly. Be creative and you'll find yourself enjoying some variation too.

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Sexuality Education  

School Based Sexuality Education is the issue or challenges....

In 1997, the Franklin County,North Carolina,school board ordered chapters on sexual behavior,contraception and AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases(STDs).

 but this steps is good of the youth to know about the failure of AIDS and STDs .... by sexuality education we can teach and know about all these factors.

"These are dark times for balanced ,responsible sexuality education," concludes Barbara Huberman, diresctor of training at Advocate for Youth.

SEXUALITY EDUCATION TODAY

Sex education has been a target of right-wing group sonce 1960s,when the John Birch Society, and other ultraconservative organization charged that such programs were "smut," "immoral" and "a filthy communist plot."

The goal of these groups was to eliminate all sex education in schools, and they clearly had an impact: By the early 1970s,legislatures in 20 states had voted to restrict or abloish sexualtiy education.

so sex education is not a bad for the education or youth generation.

Some honest talk about the reality of sex.

Sex can be fun, meaningful and feel great. Sex can also be frustrating, confusing and it can hurt. So how can you make sex feel good?

You have probably learned about sex from many places such as TV shows, movies, your parents and family, your teachers, your religion, your community and your friends. All these messages combine to affect your feelings and opinions about sex.

Sex means different things to different people. It can include fantasizing, masturbating alone or with a partner, vaginal or anal intercourse with dildos, a penis, fingers, or other sex toys.

Have you had a bad experience with sex?  Are you afraid of sex?  This does not mean that something is wrong with you or your body. Sometimes all the messages you receive about sex can make it hard to sort out what your own feelings and desires are or can get in the way of your sexual pleasure.

This page talks about some reasons why sex may not feel good and some tips on how to make it feel good.

What kind of things can make sex feel bad?

• You are not turned on or excited.
• You don’t know what to do or are worried you won’t be a good sex partner.
• You are not sure you are ready to have sex.
• You are worried about how your body looks, if your body is “normal” or sexy.
• You are worried people might make fun of you, gossip about you, or tease you.
• You are being forced to have sex.
• You have been sexually assaulted or abused in the past.
• You are unsure about whether you like men, women, or both.
• You are worried about pregnancy.
• You are worried about getting sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
• You have an STI and are worried about giving it to your partner.
• You are afraid about people finding out, including family or friends.
• You are not comfortable with your partner.
• You don’t feel like you can talk to your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t.
• You are feeling pressured to have sex or to have an orgasm.
• You are tired or stressed out.
• You feel like it’s over too fast or takes too long or hurts.
• You are dealing with depression, anxiety, or other issues that affect your sex drive.
• You are on medications, like anti-depressants, which can lower your sex drive.
• You don’t have any privacy or a comfortable place to have sex.
• If you are nervous, feeling guilty or worried, or if you are high or drunk, sex may not be much fun. You may have trouble getting or keeping an erection or your vagina may not lubricate (get slippery) and can tighten up.

How can I make sex feel good?

Here are some tips that will help sex feel good:

Learn to love your body!

• It’s a sad fact that many of us feel ashamed and embarrassed about our bodies.
• There are many kinds of sexy bodies. What we see on TV or in movies is the perfect version of what the media thinks people find sexy. It is not what every individual thinks is sexy.
• Everyone’s body is beautiful and unique. Our bodies come in many different shapes and sizes. Our genitals vary in size, shape, colour, and smell, just like our faces!
• Take time to explore your body. Use your eyes to look, your fingers to explore and your nose to smell. Use a mirror to really check yourself out.
• If you take the time to learn how to love your body you will find that others will love it too.

Find out what feels good

• Everyone likes to be touched, caressed and played with differently.
• Masturbating on your own is a great way to get to know your body and what feels good. You can masturbate on your own or with a partner. 
  
• It will be easier to tell your partner what you want if you know what feels good for you.
• You can use a sex toy to touch yourself in different areas, using different settings or speeds to get a sense of what you might like.

• Look at magazines, read books or watch movies and fantasize about what you’d like to do.

Useful tips

• The most sensitive part of the female genitals, for most, is the clitoris. The clitoris is the small bump at the top of the vulva, and there are also parts of the clitoris that run the length of the vulva. Because the clitoris is not inside the vagina, many people don’t orgasm during vaginal penetration with a finger, dildo, or penis alone. 
• The most sensitive part of the male genitals can be the head (top part or tip) of the penis. 

More tips for making sex feel good

• Take some time to get in the mood. This can include sending sexy text messages, talking sexy, massage, giving small kisses, lighting candles, putting on music or anything else that makes you feel sexy.
• Let things progress at the speed that works for you; slow, fast, whatever feels good.
• Talk to your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t feel good for you.
• You may want to tell your partner you like it when they try new things, as long as you say it’s okay first.
• Lube can go a long way to ease a tight situation and make things feel good.  You can buy lube at a drug store in the condom section or at sex toy stores. Some sexual health clinics, as well as Planned Parenthood Toronto’s Health Services, give out free samples of lube. Remember, using oil-based lubes like Vaseline can damage latex condoms.

Useful tips

• If you are concerned about pregnancy, use a condom or visit a sexual health clinic to talk about other birth control options. 
• Play safe. Whether you are straight, gay, lesbian, or bisexual and no matter who you are having sex with, sex can put you at risk for sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Consider using a condom, dental dam, or latex glove to reduce your risk. 
• If you have been sexually abused or assaulted in the past or if you are suffering from depression or anxiety you may find counselling helpful in getting to a place where sex feels good.  You can ask your health care provider about how to get this kind of help and support.

6 Super ways to make sex breathtaking

Supermodel Heidi Klum, actress Eva Longoria, singer-actress Nicole Kidman and many others have gone on record saying that they like to bring out their kinky side in the bedroom.
Couples who have experienced their 'fetish' for such fantasies swear by its pleasure. Whether you want to be the wild cat and use the belt to control your partner or use sex toys to spunk up your game of love, kinky sex is a great way to add spice to your sex life. Klum had once said, "There's nothing wrong with using a nice garter belt." While she loves to rule, Longoria prefers to be submissive. She admits that she loves being tied up with silk scarves during lovemaking. She likes a man to take charge. Each one of us has a deep desire to be ruled or to rule. Kinky sex gives you the opportunity to turn those dreams into reality.
Tie me down
Imagine lying down on your bed waiting for your partner. Suddenly your hands are handcuffed and you get blindfolded. You have no idea what's happening when your partner whispers in your ear, 'Honey, submit yourself.' He caresses you and takes you on a journey where all your desires seem to be fulfilled. Imagine! You are bound to reach the ultimate point of satisfaction.
Role play
When you are bored with your routine sex life and love making becomes 'just another task, try making it fun (instead of faking that headache). Role-playing is a must-try for those who wish to fulfill their sexual fantasies. Think of some interesting scenarios and don some exciting costumes and let your imagination guide you. Dress up like a maid, or a teenager, or try more mature roles like MILF or a teacher seducing a student. Guys could enact the role of a cow boy, or a cabana boy.
Deliciously unexpected
Kinky sex is all about 'revealing' your wild side. If you are mild and sober in your real life, be the king of the fantasy world. Dominate the bedroom moves. Spank your partner or do smut talking - the shock your partner will get to see this side of you will get things in the right gear.
Sex toys
While many use them to satisfy themselves when their partner is away, you can try them when your partner is with you. The reason? Multiple orgasms. Dildos, vibrators, Wen ba balls are some toys you could try to kick-start a heated sexual frenzy.
Dance, baby, dance
A seductive dance is all it takes to woo your partner. Guys could try the American Pie dance (at your own risk) and girls could do the sexy pole dance. Play her favourite song in the background and do a close dance. Slowly touch her and feel her and you are all set for a hot and sexy night.
Spank her tight
Spank her, bite him, hit him, pull her hair, do what you like to make it a passionate sexual encounter.
These are just a few ways to make your sex life pleasurable. Bring out the sexy, naughty, bitchy you for a more fanatical sex.

The Best Sex Positions for Pregnant Women

One minute, the sight of your partner makes you want to put him out with the weekly garbage; the next, you might want to play a couple of rounds of naked Twister. Par for the course during pregnancy.

See, as your estrogen and progesterone levels rise, they cause changes in your body that boost libido. Estrogen in particular, which serves such pregnancy-related functions as boosting blood flow to your uterus (and to your entire pelvis), also increases vaginal lubrication and heightens sensitivity in your breasts and nipples.

It’s a righteous recipe for romance. But the same hormones can also conspire against you, especially in the beginning when nausea and fatigue can send you to bed for an entirely different reason. And toward the end, you may just feel too huge, unwieldy and, again, tired. (That’s why months four to six or so are often called the “honeymoon” trimester.)

So where does that leave you? The X factor in the sex equation is the relationship between your changing moods and your changing body: Just as every woman’s pregnancy is unique, so is every pregnant woman’s sex drive. If your spirit is willing but fears or misinformation are holding you back, this advice can help you relax.

Sex is usually safe.
If you do want to have sex, embrace the ubiquitous three-word Nike slogan. As long as your pregnancy is progressing normally, you can have sex as often as you like (some exceptions may include a history of miscarriage or preterm labor).

Be aware that it’s pretty common for some women to experience bleeding during intercourse, especially in the first trimester. This is caused by the normal swelling of capillaries in the cervix, which can burst when irritated during sex. While such spotting or bleeding is generally nothing to worry about, you should still mention it to your doctor or midwife.

What’s more, there’s typically no chance of hurting the baby during sex because the amniotic fluid and your cervix protect him. But one caution: If you have oral sex, your partner should not blow air into your vagina, as during pregnancy this can cause an air bubble to block a blood vessel.

Sex can still be comfortable.
The old standby missionary position for intercourse may not work for you now. Instead, try these options:

Spooning: Lie side by side with him behind you. This makes for more shallow penetration.

You on top: There’s no pressure on your belly, and you can control the speed and depth of penetration.

Side of the bed: You lie on your back on the edge of the bed with your knees bent and feet on the edge. He stands facing you. It’s like classic missionary, but he won’t be resting his body weight on you.

Living room love: Kneel on a couch with your belly facing the back of it; use your arms for support. He penetrates from behind.

You will have sex again after the baby comes.
Just be aware that with the sudden drop of estrogen after delivery, your libido can plummet and the lining of your vagina thins out, making intercourse feel like you’re losing your virginity all over again. This can be particularly true if you’re breastfeeding.

Most docs recommend that you wait six weeks until after giving birth (even for oral sex). The goals are to allow your body to heal, avoid infection and deal with any psychological or emotional issues you and your partner may be feeling. When you do venture back, it’s important to make your partner aware that you may need plenty of foreplay and possibly lubrication. (Need a lubricant? Get one now at GNC Live Well.) Taking care of the baby for you whenever possible so that you can nap couldn’t hurt, either!

Sex education: Talking to your teen about sex

Sex education is offered in many schools, but don't count on classroom instruction alone. Sex education needs to happen at home, too. Here's help talking to your teen about sex.

Sex education basics may be covered in health class, but your teen might not hear — or understand — everything he or she needs to know to make tough choices about sex. That's where you come in. Awkward as it may be, sex education is a parent's responsibility. By reinforcing and supplementing what your teen learns in school, you can set the stage for a lifetime of healthy sexuality.

Breaking the ice

Sex is a staple subject of news, entertainment and advertising. It's often hard to avoid this ever-present topic. But when parents and teens need to talk, it's not always so easy. If you wait for the perfect moment, you might miss the best opportunities. Instead, think of sex education as an ongoing conversation. Here are some ideas to help you get started — and keep the discussion going.

• Seize the moment. When a TV program or music video raises issues about responsible sexual behavior, use it as a springboard for discussion. Remember that everyday moments — such as riding in the car or putting away groceries — sometimes offer the best opportunities to talk.
• Be honest. If you're uncomfortable, say so — but explain that it's important to keep talking. If you don't know how to answer your teen's questions, offer to find the answers or look them up together.
• Be direct. Clearly state your feelings about specific issues, such as oral sex and intercourse. Present the risks objectively, including emotional pain, sexually transmitted infections and unplanned pregnancy. Explain that oral sex isn't a risk-free alternative to intercourse.
• Consider your teen's point of view. Don't lecture your teen or rely on scare tactics to discourage sexual activity. Instead, listen carefully. Understand your teen's pressures, challenges and concerns.
• Move beyond the facts. Your teen needs accurate information about sex — but it's just as important to talk about feelings, attitudes and values. Examine questions of ethics and responsibility in the context of your personal or religious beliefs.
• Invite more discussion. Let your teen know that it's OK to talk with you about sex whenever he or she has questions or concerns. Reward questions by saying, "I'm glad you came to me."

Addressing tough topics

Sex education for teens includes abstinence, date rape, homosexuality and other tough topics. Be prepared for questions like these:

• How will I know I'm ready for sex? Various factors — peer pressure, curiosity and loneliness, to name a few — steer some teenagers into early sexual activity. But there's no rush. Remind your teen that it's OK to wait. Sex is an adult behavior. In the meantime, there are many other ways to express affection — intimate talks, long walks, holding hands, listening to music, dancing, kissing, touching and hugging.
• What if my boyfriend or girlfriend wants to have sex, but I don't? Explain that no one should have sex out of a sense of obligation or fear. Any form of forced sex is rape, whether the perpetrator is a stranger or someone your teen has been dating. Impress upon your teen that no always means no. Emphasize that alcohol and drugs impair judgment and reduce inhibitions, leading to situations in which date rape is more likely to occur.
• What if I think I'm gay? Many teens wonder at some point whether they're gay or bisexual. Help your teen understand that he or she is just beginning to explore sexual attraction. These feelings may change as time goes on. Above all, however, let your teen know that you love him or her unconditionally. Praise your teen for sharing his or her feelings.

Healthy vs. unhealthy relationships

Teens and adults are often unaware of how regularly dating violence occurs, so it is important to get the facts and share them with your teen. Parents also should be alert to warning signs that a teen may be a victim of dating violence, such as:

• Alcohol or drug use
• Avoidance of friends and social events
• Excusing their dating partner's behavior
• Fearfulness around their dating partner
• Loss of interest in school or activities that were once enjoyable
• Suspicious bruises, scratches or other injuries

Teens who are in abusive relationships are at increased risk of long-term consequences, including poor academic performance, binge drinking and suicide attempts. The emotional impact of unhealthy relationships may also be lasting, increasing the likelihood of future unhappy, violent relationships.
The lessons teens learn today about respect, healthy relationships, and what is right or wrong will carry over into their future relationships. Therefore, it's important to talk with your teen about what does and doesn't constitute a healthy relationship.

Responding to behavior

If your teen becomes sexually active — whether you think he or she is ready or not — it may be more important than ever to keep the conversation going. State your feelings openly and honestly. Remind your teen that you expect him or her to take sex and the associated responsibilities seriously.
Stress the importance of safe sex, and make sure your teen understands how to get and use contraception. You might talk about keeping a sexual relationship exclusive, not only as a matter of trust and respect but also to reduce the risk of sexually transmitted infections. Also set and enforce reasonable boundaries, such as curfews and rules about visits from friends of the opposite sex.
Your teen's doctor can help, too. A routine checkup can give your teen the opportunity to address sexual activity and other behaviors in a supportive, confidential atmosphere — as well as learn about contraception and safe sex. The doctor may also stress the importance of routine human papillomavirus (HPV) vaccination, for both girls and boys, to help prevent genital warts as well as cancers of the cervix, anus, mouth and throat, and penis.

Looking ahead

With your support, your teen can emerge into a sexually responsible adult. Be honest and speak from the heart. If your teen doesn't seem interested in what you have to say about sex, say it anyway. He or she is probably listening.